How to Raise your son…Biblically

5 Actions Single Mothers can take to raise Biblically Masculine Men!

This past weekend, I had the chance to attend my nephew’s high school graduation.

Graduation is always a time to reflect on the journey it took to bring up a child from infancy to the precipice of adulthood.

Having recently gone through this with my daughter, I recognize how much of an achievement this was for my nephew.

I also reflected on the fact that he was raised by a single mom.

In my mind this only magnified his accomplishment, because I personally know how difficult it can be for single mothers raising sons.

Despite how the media and liberal feminists want to spin it, divorce is traumatic on children, especially sons.

It’s difficult for sons because the majority of the time, the father is the one who leaves the house.

Instantly, there is a boy who is without the covering of his father and unless the mother raises him correctly, he could grow up with anger and bitterness. Which, will only lead to two paths, jail or the grave.

Thus, it’s imperative upon single moms with sons to raise them up biblically.

Truth be told, no woman can teach a man how to be a Biblical Man.

However, if a Biblical Single Mother does these things, she can put her sons in the best position to be Biblically Masculine Men.

Allow your son to be a child and not a partner

It is so easy for single mothers to begin to mis-identify their young sons and relate to them as partners instead of children. 

This can take on the form of guilting your son into spending more time with you than with his friends. 

Or, it can simply be giving your son more responsibility than he is ready for at that particular point in time. 

Moms, you must cut the apron strings at the appropriate time.

Do not have multiple men, in and out the house

This is the worst thing that your son can see. 

What this does is diminish the role of women in the eyes of your son. 

Now, your son begins to objectify women and will not value them the way that God instructs men to value to women. 

Also, I would argue this is a reason a number of black boys who are raised by single mothers choose to date outside of the black ethnicity.  They do not respect black women because of the lack of respect shown to them by their mother.

Surround the young men with godly mentors

This is critical. 

Single mothers must surround their sons with godly mentors. 

It can be men from the church, men of good reputation in the community, that are married, and have children of their own. 

This will give your son the ability to see how a godly husband and father conducts himself. 

This will in turn disciple your son, into the lifestyle of a biblical husband and father.

Do not bad mouth the son’s father

Regardless of what happened between you and your son’s father, do not bad mouth the father to the son. 

What do I mean by bad mouth? 

Saying things such as, you are no good like your father, you are lazy like your father, your father is good for nothing…those are things that build strongholds in the minds of young men where they will not trust men when they grow up. 

Thus, making it harder for them to find mentors to assist them in life.

Pray for God to become a Father to your son

This is the most crucial action to take. 

When God truly becomes the Father to your son, your son will receive a better view of what a real Father looks like. 

When your son reflects on how God demonstrated His Love towards us by sending Jesus to die in our place, this elicits real, humility in your son. 

Your son will now understand that while his earthly father was absentee, His Heavenly Father will never leave him or desert him.

Doing these actions will help to ensure your son is not a victim, but is empowered for greatness.